What to do when LIFE kicks you really fucking hard in the NUTS!!!

So have you found yourself in a situation when you are really angry!! Like I am going to rip, punch, kick and break sort of angry.

Or have you been really frustrated? Like what you are saying is falling on deaf ears. Or “are you kidding me” or “have you lost your mind” or “that’s not what I said” sort of frustrated.

Or you have been really sad and depressed? As in “I have cancer” or “I don’t know if I will ever be happy again” or “I should probably end myself” or “I don’t know if I will be able to eat my favorite dish” or “If I got some more time” or “Maybe I should have done things better” or “Why me” or “Yeah, but why me then”.

Or have you been suicidal and are contemplating it. Or have thought of it at some time in your life?

Sadly or however you might take this, but I have been in all these scenarios and every time I am in one of them I try to figure out a good way or try to conform and adapt to the situation in the best possible way. Additionally I try to keep everyone around me happy and comfortable even when others might be frustrated or even if they think otherwise. Most of the time I have not found anything that works in these scenarios.

Like with the anger case, one of the most common scenario’s I guess we all face. “Should I yell” or “Should I just listen” or “Should I apologize and move on” or “Should I work on not letting this happen” or “Boy that big rock looks really tempting” to “I think I should go for a long car/bike ride”.

If you are angry at them, people will think you are an asshole.

If you are listening, people will think you are non-confrontational or simply ignoring them and will probably yell harder.

If you try to go away from there, they will say that you have a tendency to run away from everything. And that you are an Escapist and always run away from situation rather than finding a solution.

To keep things short all the other scenarios too, have similar endings as above. Maybe listening to you, your loved ones might get really sad and depressed. Or they will try to elevate you somehow and create more issues. Or they will just not do anything and think you will figure it out.

 Now this is the important part, almost whatever you do is not going to work. So now the biggest question I keep running into is “Then what should I do”.

And now look I am not expert here but the toughest, hardest and mentally taxing thing and the correct thing to do is “Do your best and move on”. If you do anything other than that you are going to hurt yourself and others. So just be yourself, try and do the best you can in that scenario and move on.

Because in this really small span of time which we call life, there is nothing else you can do except make things worse for yourself. I know it is very tough and who decides whether you did right or wrong to which the answer is “None can decide and will decide, because everyone is/should be busy contemplating their own actions”. Also people will think what they want to think and nothing can change their opinion. So, it is the task that the almighty has given to you is to “keep yourself happy”, while doing the best you can not to harm or hurt others in any way. If you can do that you are winner. If you are not able to do it then you lose. But don’t worry because no-one cares if you win or lose too :D

We are inconsequential, irrelevant and incapable specks in this grand scheme. And nothing can go wrong, so why worry, complicate things and keep yourself tensed/angry/frustrated/depressed/sad all the synonyms of unhappy, and instead be Happy.

Cause I think that being happy is the aim and goal of our lives and nothing else.

So Be Happy folks!!! Cheer!!!!

Ashu

Trying to learn To Be HAPPY J

धाएं धाएं

इससे पहले आप यह सोचें की आप क्या पढ़ रहे है मैं आपको बता दूँ की यह गाना फिल्म पान सिंह तोमर का है और इसके बोल जावेद अख्तर ने लिखें है. और मुझे लगता है की इस गणतंत्र दिवस पर यह गाना भारत के मन को सही रूप से कैद करता है. इसलिए मैं यह गाना आप सब के साथ बांटना चाहता था. सुने और आनंद लें

देखो हवा ज़ोर से भड़की

तन में नसें ज़ोर से तड़की

अब तो रंग जाएगी धरती लाल लाल

देखो हवा ज़ोर से भड़की

तन में नसें ज़ोर से तड़की

अब तो रंग जाएगी धरती लाल लाल

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

तकिया  है बन्दुक हमारी

पत्थर हमको लगे बिछोना

एक दूजे का साथ हमारा

बीहड़ में वनवास हमारा

आंधी जैसा चलना सायें सायें

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

उखड जायेगें वा के पांव

जो हमसे घेरेगा दांव

दुश्मन ते हम मज़ा चखा दे

लाशन के अम्बार लगा दे

चील कौआ करें काएँ काएँ

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

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Movement

Education is the movement from darkness to light. Allan Bloom

When I was feeling a little perplexed today, about the things that were taking place in my life. I decided to pen my thoughts on a topic, so that we can reflect upon it later someday. So it provides a Perspective to us and we can better learn about ourselves. That is when I stumbled upon the above quote by Mr. Bloom a well know philosopher.

You would think that this post is going to be a long rant about Education but I would like to surprise you today by reflecting upon Movement. Yes movement, agility, nimbleness, speed, motility, mobility, all of these words having similar meanings. So intimately this word is related when you think about it, is it can also be a synonym for Life. Everything that has Life moves. People, animals, plants, microbes, particles and even the smallest know entity to man atoms – they move.

Movement can be slow like the earth breathing, very slowly as with the seasons, as time passes, movement of its crust. We can feel it sometimes catastrophically when an earthquake happens and sometimes we don’t even know. But that does not deny the fact that it’s moving. And Movement can be as fast as a thought, gone before we can think about it. Education here refers to us. And when I say so, by us I mean by our Conscious. Our Conscious too is constantly moving. That shows that we are not dead and the darkness has not engulfed us. It is this knowledge that has given us the necessary Drive, again a synonym of Movement, to move towards light. And this educated consciousness I believe is the driving factor behind everything.

Even in life we notice that people who are highly educated are very Nimble and agile. And this education and consciousness is what keeps us moving. Inching towards the ephemeral finish line, not being able to touch it as it inches further is what keeps everyone on our toes.

Movement, it is the necessity in life - is life. We have to move to be alive. Can’t repeat and stress it enough (again, haha). If not, we are not our conscious and we will slowly become a part of the darkness. Whatever our goal might be, our Educated Consciousness and a sense of Purpose are the driving factors that push us to achieve it and fulfill our Destiny. So with this thought, I would like to point out that it is very important to be moving (again :P). Movement towards Education and Knowledge is what defines our Conscious. Movement is what distinguishes victory from defeat, sleep from death, and coming back making a full circle, darkness from light. So move, move my dear reader, towards a brighter, more educated, more knowledgeable and a more Conscious existence.

Kudos!!! Now move faster

Amratanshu

The agile

Courage

Life Shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s Courage – Anais Nin

So very true! I found this thought both beautiful and powerful. It is beautiful in the sense of it being very nimble, soft and sort of mathematical. But when you think about it for a second, the use of the word ‘Courage’ gives strength and a lot of importance to this sentence.

Definitely it is all about Courage. Personally speaking, when I was faced with a very challenging and murky scenario in life, Courage is all I was left with. When life throws a curve ball at you, it’s this same word and thought, Courage, which powers you. When you see the outcomes as grave and you know you are out of options, pushed back into a wall, this Courage is what you are left with and nothing else. Nothing else to save you from the cold darkness but your inner strength which is what I think Courage is.

When I was a small kid I used to watch a cartoon named “Courage the cowardly dog”. At that time I found the cartoon mildly scary and very funny with Courage, the dog and his sarcastic computer being my favorite characters. Now when I think about it, that cartoon doesn’t feel that different from life. In life too you are sometimes not left with anyone/anything other than Courage to come to your rescue. Courage being the name of ‘cowardly dog’, just like life’s ironies, it presents itself in very dire and cold situations. Just like saving Muriel and her husband from so many foes. And at that time, ‘Courage’, just gives you warm glimpses of what the future might hold, just glimpses that provide you with enough strength to hold on and not give into the cold darkness that is waiting to engulf you.

Courage is the same feeling that gives you the strength to become a phoenix and rise from your own ashes, to fly high in the sky once again and to heal the wounds of others with your tears.  This is such a deep and thought provoking statement, yet very simple and straightforward. If you have courage you have Life, else when you don’t you can see your options reduce and dwindle. Courage can make you stay positive and give you that necessary impetus you need in life, thus expanding the horizons. Lack of it makes you meek and scared, being afraid to go out in this world and explore. Explorations can be of any nature and one should not attribute it to Courage, if the outcomes are bad one should understand, it’s just the mere nature of this thought, to give you a push out of your comforts and into the world.

So wrapping up my words, go out and take chances my friends. Live a life filled with Courage. It is the wind that will fill up under your wings and give your life aspirations and something to live for. Courage is a necessity in life, so when the last time comes, you meet your maker with this same thought and feeling of Courage. Not with the cold and dark hands of defeat but with a warm and pleasant feeling of accomplishment.

Cheers!!! To Courage!!

Amratanshu,

the cowardly yet courageous