What to do when LIFE kicks you really fucking hard in the NUTS!!!

So have you found yourself in a situation when you are really angry!! Like I am going to rip, punch, kick and break sort of angry.

Or have you been really frustrated? Like what you are saying is falling on deaf ears. Or “are you kidding me” or “have you lost your mind” or “that’s not what I said” sort of frustrated.

Or you have been really sad and depressed? As in “I have cancer” or “I don’t know if I will ever be happy again” or “I should probably end myself” or “I don’t know if I will be able to eat my favorite dish” or “If I got some more time” or “Maybe I should have done things better” or “Why me” or “Yeah, but why me then”.

Or have you been suicidal and are contemplating it. Or have thought of it at some time in your life?

Sadly or however you might take this, but I have been in all these scenarios and every time I am in one of them I try to figure out a good way or try to conform and adapt to the situation in the best possible way. Additionally I try to keep everyone around me happy and comfortable even when others might be frustrated or even if they think otherwise. Most of the time I have not found anything that works in these scenarios.

Like with the anger case, one of the most common scenario’s I guess we all face. “Should I yell” or “Should I just listen” or “Should I apologize and move on” or “Should I work on not letting this happen” or “Boy that big rock looks really tempting” to “I think I should go for a long car/bike ride”.

If you are angry at them, people will think you are an asshole.

If you are listening, people will think you are non-confrontational or simply ignoring them and will probably yell harder.

If you try to go away from there, they will say that you have a tendency to run away from everything. And that you are an Escapist and always run away from situation rather than finding a solution.

To keep things short all the other scenarios too, have similar endings as above. Maybe listening to you, your loved ones might get really sad and depressed. Or they will try to elevate you somehow and create more issues. Or they will just not do anything and think you will figure it out.

 Now this is the important part, almost whatever you do is not going to work. So now the biggest question I keep running into is “Then what should I do”.

And now look I am not expert here but the toughest, hardest and mentally taxing thing and the correct thing to do is “Do your best and move on”. If you do anything other than that you are going to hurt yourself and others. So just be yourself, try and do the best you can in that scenario and move on.

Because in this really small span of time which we call life, there is nothing else you can do except make things worse for yourself. I know it is very tough and who decides whether you did right or wrong to which the answer is “None can decide and will decide, because everyone is/should be busy contemplating their own actions”. Also people will think what they want to think and nothing can change their opinion. So, it is the task that the almighty has given to you is to “keep yourself happy”, while doing the best you can not to harm or hurt others in any way. If you can do that you are winner. If you are not able to do it then you lose. But don’t worry because no-one cares if you win or lose too :D

We are inconsequential, irrelevant and incapable specks in this grand scheme. And nothing can go wrong, so why worry, complicate things and keep yourself tensed/angry/frustrated/depressed/sad all the synonyms of unhappy, and instead be Happy.

Cause I think that being happy is the aim and goal of our lives and nothing else.

So Be Happy folks!!! Cheer!!!!

Ashu

Trying to learn To Be HAPPY J

धाएं धाएं

इससे पहले आप यह सोचें की आप क्या पढ़ रहे है मैं आपको बता दूँ की यह गाना फिल्म पान सिंह तोमर का है और इसके बोल जावेद अख्तर ने लिखें है. और मुझे लगता है की इस गणतंत्र दिवस पर यह गाना भारत के मन को सही रूप से कैद करता है. इसलिए मैं यह गाना आप सब के साथ बांटना चाहता था. सुने और आनंद लें

देखो हवा ज़ोर से भड़की

तन में नसें ज़ोर से तड़की

अब तो रंग जाएगी धरती लाल लाल

देखो हवा ज़ोर से भड़की

तन में नसें ज़ोर से तड़की

अब तो रंग जाएगी धरती लाल लाल

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

तकिया  है बन्दुक हमारी

पत्थर हमको लगे बिछोना

एक दूजे का साथ हमारा

बीहड़ में वनवास हमारा

आंधी जैसा चलना सायें सायें

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

उखड जायेगें वा के पांव

जो हमसे घेरेगा दांव

दुश्मन ते हम मज़ा चखा दे

लाशन के अम्बार लगा दे

चील कौआ करें काएँ काएँ

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

पर ये अपने मन की ना ऐ

का करेगा कोई उपाय

अब तो करनी पड़ेगी

धाएं धाएं

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Movement

Education is the movement from darkness to light. Allan Bloom

When I was feeling a little perplexed today, about the things that were taking place in my life. I decided to pen my thoughts on a topic, so that we can reflect upon it later someday. So it provides a Perspective to us and we can better learn about ourselves. That is when I stumbled upon the above quote by Mr. Bloom a well know philosopher.

You would think that this post is going to be a long rant about Education but I would like to surprise you today by reflecting upon Movement. Yes movement, agility, nimbleness, speed, motility, mobility, all of these words having similar meanings. So intimately this word is related when you think about it, is it can also be a synonym for Life. Everything that has Life moves. People, animals, plants, microbes, particles and even the smallest know entity to man atoms – they move.

Movement can be slow like the earth breathing, very slowly as with the seasons, as time passes, movement of its crust. We can feel it sometimes catastrophically when an earthquake happens and sometimes we don’t even know. But that does not deny the fact that it’s moving. And Movement can be as fast as a thought, gone before we can think about it. Education here refers to us. And when I say so, by us I mean by our Conscious. Our Conscious too is constantly moving. That shows that we are not dead and the darkness has not engulfed us. It is this knowledge that has given us the necessary Drive, again a synonym of Movement, to move towards light. And this educated consciousness I believe is the driving factor behind everything.

Even in life we notice that people who are highly educated are very Nimble and agile. And this education and consciousness is what keeps us moving. Inching towards the ephemeral finish line, not being able to touch it as it inches further is what keeps everyone on our toes.

Movement, it is the necessity in life - is life. We have to move to be alive. Can’t repeat and stress it enough (again, haha). If not, we are not our conscious and we will slowly become a part of the darkness. Whatever our goal might be, our Educated Consciousness and a sense of Purpose are the driving factors that push us to achieve it and fulfill our Destiny. So with this thought, I would like to point out that it is very important to be moving (again :P). Movement towards Education and Knowledge is what defines our Conscious. Movement is what distinguishes victory from defeat, sleep from death, and coming back making a full circle, darkness from light. So move, move my dear reader, towards a brighter, more educated, more knowledgeable and a more Conscious existence.

Kudos!!! Now move faster

Amratanshu

The agile

Courage

Life Shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s Courage – Anais Nin

So very true! I found this thought both beautiful and powerful. It is beautiful in the sense of it being very nimble, soft and sort of mathematical. But when you think about it for a second, the use of the word ‘Courage’ gives strength and a lot of importance to this sentence.

Definitely it is all about Courage. Personally speaking, when I was faced with a very challenging and murky scenario in life, Courage is all I was left with. When life throws a curve ball at you, it’s this same word and thought, Courage, which powers you. When you see the outcomes as grave and you know you are out of options, pushed back into a wall, this Courage is what you are left with and nothing else. Nothing else to save you from the cold darkness but your inner strength which is what I think Courage is.

When I was a small kid I used to watch a cartoon named “Courage the cowardly dog”. At that time I found the cartoon mildly scary and very funny with Courage, the dog and his sarcastic computer being my favorite characters. Now when I think about it, that cartoon doesn’t feel that different from life. In life too you are sometimes not left with anyone/anything other than Courage to come to your rescue. Courage being the name of ‘cowardly dog’, just like life’s ironies, it presents itself in very dire and cold situations. Just like saving Muriel and her husband from so many foes. And at that time, ‘Courage’, just gives you warm glimpses of what the future might hold, just glimpses that provide you with enough strength to hold on and not give into the cold darkness that is waiting to engulf you.

Courage is the same feeling that gives you the strength to become a phoenix and rise from your own ashes, to fly high in the sky once again and to heal the wounds of others with your tears.  This is such a deep and thought provoking statement, yet very simple and straightforward. If you have courage you have Life, else when you don’t you can see your options reduce and dwindle. Courage can make you stay positive and give you that necessary impetus you need in life, thus expanding the horizons. Lack of it makes you meek and scared, being afraid to go out in this world and explore. Explorations can be of any nature and one should not attribute it to Courage, if the outcomes are bad one should understand, it’s just the mere nature of this thought, to give you a push out of your comforts and into the world.

So wrapping up my words, go out and take chances my friends. Live a life filled with Courage. It is the wind that will fill up under your wings and give your life aspirations and something to live for. Courage is a necessity in life, so when the last time comes, you meet your maker with this same thought and feeling of Courage. Not with the cold and dark hands of defeat but with a warm and pleasant feeling of accomplishment.

Cheers!!! To Courage!!

Amratanshu,

the cowardly yet courageous  

Contemplation, Perception and Practice

This blog comes after a long time of silence and is also uninteresting if you don't prefer reading philosophy. Silence not budding from laziness. Well a little, but most of it has its roots in the struggle of life and death, and not with a whiff of sarcasm but literally. Emerging from a near life experience, you at the end, realize how fast people forget the differences and start treating you as equals.Well not that I want to be treated differently but when people start forgetting the fact that your ability to work is a 'little' compromised at the moment makes no sense to them. Well its not their fault, evolution teaches them to judge people. For them its a matter of prime courage you displayed while fighting death and in the next moment you become an uninteresting, lazy, fat, intelligent but not exploiting it, blob. Who they try to help just so as to make themselves feel better about themselves.

But anyways you may find the three words in the title unrelated and lacking any sense. But there is a deep relation. But today I am just writing my thoughts out whether they be correct or not will be up-to popular belief. As its has always been. The human kind with all the enormous identity that is itself has failed to realize itself. We may know about universes, our planet, other organisms, but we fail to CONTEMPLATE ourselves. We fail to PERCEIVE what other expect from us, or what they want. And we PRACTICE a behavior hard to justify and even harder to mimic.

Yes I am talking about thinking or contemplating unique workable ideas. Others understand or better perceive them as big talks and nonsense. And relating that both parties practice a behavior of seclusion. The thinker imagines that his day will come. The listener thinks that the thinker will realize once he falls on his ass face first. And so no useful work is done. The males in our society practice dick measuring every moment and the females reproduce and gossip. Well this is a very broad perspective but if sit for some time and watch and replay your conversations with the same of your respective sex you will realize that its true one way or the other.

And we want to make our future generations creative, advanced and faster , but we teach them to quarrel, lose control, lose patience and get involved in such a routine which gives us purpose after we have realized that we haven't accomplished anything important and start making others achievements ours by supporting them through jobs where you are replaceable and undervalued. We teach this to our young. Not the art of solving problems, seeing past colors and evolving in general.

But enough preaching from me. How am I different if I haven't provided a valid solution to this issue. Well I think,and I have been giving this some thought and realized the more I refrain from the above PRACTICES the more I become useful. Useful not by becoming a machine, earning money and living lavishly, but helping in evolution. This is a very feeble attempt to point at the problem but an attempt regardless. It don't mean to demean anyone its just my opinion and comes with a statuary warning of not applying if you are under the IQ of 100. Jokes apart lets try and innovate, create and evolve setting aside routine, bickering and egos. Lets try and create a better future.

David and Goliath

            This piece is an advice to the numerous Indian youth just like me. If we do not act quickly we might have to face oblivion or bitter tastes of failure and insult.

Everyone knows the allegory of David and Goliath and many of my colleagues, decorated vets of the editing team may find this example childish. But this can prove to be a contemporary personification in the world politics. And yes I am talking about India and china and their mellifluous relationship a consortium of lies and deceit.

            Many of us might argue that this is an unjust example of the world scenario. But I would like to quote only one thing to them “well can’t you see that each and every kernel of the Indian society is breached by corruption, take the CWG for example”. But yes, if we try and seclude ourselves of the irony we will realize that things are getting worst.

            “History repeats itself” a statement that has proved itself on and over time and yet again the world is standing on the cusp of a cold war, one whose victor will become the superpower of the world. But do not be pleased by finding India in race to being a superpower. In this case David’s slingshot is plagued by corruption, un-education, poverty and overpopulation. It’s like showing to the world our ignorance towards contraceptives and bribing.

            While on the other hand goliath being bigger in size is still increasing its strength economic, military and social. This has been its forte since its inception. A strategy to surround India by befriending its rivals and providing them nukes in spite of worldwide objections clearly shows its motive. Spoiling the brats across the border and encouraging them in fueling terrorism and naxalitism has unveiled china’s true identity. With immense workforce and mammoth projects like the Brahmaputra dam, are acting as a wakeup call for every Indian. With the prime ministers laptop breached by Chinese hackers and uncorroborated reports of communication losses with ISRO’S INSAT 4B, dominating India at every stratum, it would be an understatement that “we are in trouble”.

            It’s a faceoff between fiendish and veiled communalism and a corrupt and failing democracy. How much we argue the facts state that in case of a war, there would be no place for us to hide our asses. This can be clearly depicted by India’s situation in the world politics. Being the second biggest and population and army it still has no place in the UN Security Council, one recently allotted that too temporary just to keep us happy in our bubble, a bubble in which the struggle of a normal Indian is confined to bread and cloth and shelter if he’s in luck.

            This is not a demoralizing article rather a demeaning one showing us who we really are.  If this David needs to survive the goliath and his minions he’ll have to bring about a socio-economic revolution or else face oblivion. With the tag of a third world country slowly fading away I urge every youth, even one with iotic feelings of pseudo-love for his country to realize his responsibilities and help in ameliorating India’s situation instead of updating his/her status on facebook.

“WE THE YOUTH HAVE IMMENSE ENERGY AND STRENGTH, WHICH IF WE PUT IN ARDUOUS EFFORTS AND HARNESS NO RED NATION WILL EVER THINK OF CROSSING US AND SURVIVING ON OUR BEST DAY.“

A crucial article for everyone, Please read through, Have you been robbed?

                

                So, guys when I ask this question: what is the first thing that comes to your mind? It will be money or something dear like a personal belonging. But here I am talking of the property we all have an immense potential in, but which is often left to rot and is seldom paid attention to.

                Yes, I am talking of innovation. Innovation which is the very gist of success. The one asset that each and everyone of us has been bestowed with. But, one which we tend to lose as we advance in lives.

                So by now many users must have decided that this article is of no use to them. But if allowed to write so in the heading this article can change you lives if you still have the ability to learn from it. I am not being preachy, I am just sharing my experiences, those that have come from toilsome efforts.

                Yes this article is about the INDIAN EDUCATION SYSTEM showcasing its pros and cons and ultimately relating it your lives and how can you start winning. If you can derive some inspiration from it. But first we must address the most important question. What is education. Many of us might argue that they know it meaning but very less really understand it.

                Education is the process by which society deliberately transmits its accumulated knowledge, skills and values from one generation to another. Well this is the definition what I found on wiki but do we understand the real aspects of education.

                How many of you remember your school. We will deny due to our natural tendencies but deep down we ourselves know that we crammed the answers not knowing what they meant. This is the primary drawback of the indian system. We are forced to learn by a stick. Seldom our we left alone in the world to learn things on our own out of enthusiasm and curiosity. From the moment a child is born he/she starts learning a process which is life long. But then why are we made to cram things and not to reason and develop an individual thought. One which might prove more helpful than a replica of answers in the answer copies. Eventually it becomes our tendency to just cram things and vomit it on the exam sheets without even understanding anything and that is why we get robbed of our ability to INNOVATE. We become like servile toadies that do whats commanded not paying heed to the reason or cause.

                I am sure many of you must be thinking that you know this and this issue has largely being discussed and even portrayed in movies like 3 idiots, but very rarely do people realize that we are having an edge over other countries not because of what we know, but the amount that we are taught forcefully or what we have crammed in our schools. But how useful is such education. That is why we perform exceptionally well when kept in a free environment where we have  freedom to innovate and think out of the box. The very reason most people going abroad start performing well, not because they crammed more, but they no longer remain in a system that drains innovation.

                Counter acting to this situation can be the toughest part. Our situation is like a paralytic trying to finish a marathon. But to break the shackles of convention and rise to become an innovator is the very purpose of man, a divine endeavor for which we were bestowed with such a brain. Try and innovate every day. It can be a new way to do a task, fun ways of doing chores innovate daily. When learning, do it for the sake of learning and not for getting marks. If such is your situation, this kind of education wont help you in the long run and so why do it. Rather invest time in more meaningful pursuits, ones which you love and those things that come naturally. Try and convince others including your parents, as if you cannot convince those who love you the most, for what you love doing the most, what’s the point in pursuing such targets.

                In the end its we who will have to change. Its high time we kept putting the blame on others and cowering from our responsibilities. We must change in order to change the world. If you want to win INNOVATE.